I went to a couple of strip clubs before leaving my wife. To some i guess thats cheating.
However, after i left my wife, i stayed away from other women until i knew i would not return even though i had opportunity and desire and it was two years before i had sex with another to free her to remarry.
Was that cheating?
It destroyed me totally for a long time. After that i had two longer term relationships and was 100% faithful. I have been in the situation of meeting 3 very nice women within the space of two weeks and i could not date more than one... Even though at that stage it would hardly be cheating on one or the other, could'nt do it.
Have been with my new wife for a bit over 3 years, never tempted to stray, and if i want to go to strip clubs she comes along too.
I dont consider myself a cheater ever though others may disagree, and as others have said, reasons for it can vary greatly. I don't beleive once a cheater always a cheater either. Reasons must be considered.
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